A Client’s Realization that Evolution is a Process
Recently a client expressed relief and gratitude about some changes she was noticing in how she interacted with others, specifically her tendency to attract codependent relationships.
At the beginning of most sessions, she’d anxiously ask me — does my energy look different? Am I getting better?
We’d laugh a little as I reminded her that energy healing tends to be iterative, and that new behaviors emerge organically as old patterns dissolve.
So imagine my delight this week when I got this text:
“I wanted to share some good news. I am really feeling a positive shift.
The energy clearing is working!”
When we met, I asked her to share more about how she’s behaving differently in her relationships. She’s seeing that she:
- gives people space to solve issues for themselves, where once she’d automatically step in and solve others problems.
- is able to hold appropriate boundaries instead of always sacrificing her own needs.
- no longer worries about disappointing others, feeling no guilt about letting them manage their own emotions and choices.
She knows she’s on her way!
Where it all began
My client isn’t unique in wanting instant results. There’s a new age myth that energy healing is magic. And in some ways, it is. But we’re all carrying stories, patterns, behaviors that are ingrained over time — some consciously, some unconsciously.
As this client entered into working with me, she said what I’ve heard many times before:
“Why do I keep doing this? Please, just tell me what to do to stop this, and I’ll do it!”
The thing is, understanding the “why”
behind what you do doesn’t
automatically change the behavior.
The Pattern exists as Energy
What to do is actually straightforward. You need to clear the pattern from your energy field.
The pattern that got embedded over months and months and years and years. Not days or hours or minutes.
Now. Don’t worry. Just because it took you years and years to embed a pattern like codependency into the way you relate to others, doesn’t mean it’s a death sentence, or that it will take the rest of your life to resolve!
Energy Clearing dissolves the pattern
Clearing and evolving your energy means learning a new way of engaging with yourself. As you become familiar with your energy body, you’ll learn where you hold the energy of your emotions and triggers so you can release them.
Resolving a pattern benefits from a consistently applied energy clearing practice. It’s an investment in yourself that pays big dividends.
As you iteratively clear your energy, it’s important to observe yourself, and to validate every shift you see. Pay attention to behaviors that are different, ways you’ve changed, and where you still get hooked, so that your clearing practice reflects your evolution..
After all, you’ll always and forever be evolving, shifting, growing!
Freedom emerges
Like a fern unfurling in the Spring, my client observed and integrated her shifts as they occurred, trusting that she was heading in the right direction.
Moving beyond the ‘why’ behind her codependent behaviors, she released the energetic charge holding them in place. As she let go, she gained her sovereignty, autonomy and freedom.
She did it, and so can you!
